About

Welcome to Caring in the Middle, a place for for people managing eldercare, kids, careers, and everything else that doesn't stop moving just because someone needs you.

Maybe you're trying to keep your mom’s meds organized while parenting a fifth grader. Or you’ve just googled “Medicaid pooled trust” for the third time this week. Maybe you're wondering how you became the one figuring it all out.

You’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong.

Why I started this

I created Caring in the Middle 2025 after years of trying to juggle eldercare, parenting, housing, finances, and work for years without letting any single piece fall apart.

Born in 1972, I'm what they call peak Gen Xer. I have a background in tech, am a single mom, and the adult child of an aging parent. Like many of you, I’m in the thick of it and tired of reading advice that assumes you either have unlimited time, money, or patience.

Caring in the Middle is where I share what’s helped me, what I wish I’d known sooner, and what I’m still figuring out.

What you’ll find here

• Essays about caregiving and identity that don’t condescend
• Resources for navigating eldercare systems, including Medicaid and advance planning
• Tools and tech I’ve actually tried—or that trusted people in my circle swear by
• A little perspective. And when I can, humor.

This isn’t a step-by-step guide. But if you’re looking for clarity, or at least someone who gets how complicated this all is, you’re in the right place.

Want to stay connected?

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Thanks for reading. I’m glad you found your way here!

Caring in the Middle is an independent publication launched in July 2025 by Pamela Eng.